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 .jpg)  Our Lil Princess: Amabel Loh Birthday: 21 August 2006 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 38weeks 3days Weight at Birth: 3.005kg Length at Birth: 47cm Breastfeed: 14 months  Our 2nd Lil Princess: Aisleyne Loh Birthday: 15 August 2008 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 39weeks 2days Weight at Birth: 3.010kg Length at Birth: 48cm Breastfeed: 3 years+  |
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date: Saturday, April 11, 2009 time : 12:55 PM I super buay siong... Almost everyday, I buay siong with him. He's just not up to my standard. To me, sometimes i just feel he's an unworthy partner. And maybe to him, I 'm a woman just not that perfect as a wife and a lazy woman, who stick to com and leaving the kids aside (??) Ha! Ha! What a big thing to laugh at when he said that. How true? Only I know and my maid know. 我對的起天地良心就可以了。 I only use the com, surfing net when I pumping milk, to kill the long pumping session. If not, will be when there's someone (like him...but is being forced to, cause Amabel glued him instead of me) taking care the kids. and that's alway less than 10mins then I will attend to them. Is it mean that I become a mom already, I don't have the authority to surf net already?? WTF right And for the past few days or when he's not at home at night; I'm alway the one taking care the two kids alone, never have the time to sit down and relax, especially I'm putting so much effort to train Amabel to adapt a good sleeping habit. I didn't even on the laptop. So who saw that! no one except the maid. and this idiot must be assuming that I only care on surfing net or blogging at home. WTF again I only get to pump milk after both my kids asleep, hence surfing net. Sometimes, I do surf till quite late but the kids are asleep throughout the night. So what's wrong with me surfing net right? I also need to have some own time right. Even though, I still wake up early in the morning so I can help to take care the kids for the maid. I never complains to him that I don't get enough of sleep, yet still need to take care the kids right I don't get to nap in the noon during weekend (but he can), cause I don't want the maid to overload with work yet with the responsibility to take care the 2 kids. Instead, he is the one kept complaining that he slept late (cause surfing net, watching TV) and being woken up by Amabel early in the morning. He should know that every morning , Amabel sure will disturb and wake him up. And yet he still want to sleep so late. Too bad ... He's just so unlucky cause Amabel cling to him. I know it's not easy for him, but... it's not easy for me either. If not because Amabel cling to him, I garanttee he will whole day surf net and relax one. But still, he often get to nap in the noon, leaving the kids under me and my maid's care. And he can happily surf net for quite long (at least longer than me), when Amabel is playing on her own and Aisleyne is under my care. So why he want to point his finger at me. Before you point your finger at me, please look at yourself, your the other fingers are pointing to yourself. I know he loves me and should know my character very well. He knows I don't like ppls to said me this and that yet he always like to purposely pick on me before looking at himself. Hence, I also want to pick on him too. If he keeps his mouth shut, I will be very happy. And I will treat him better. More worth to. Anyway he is just not supportive on the effort I put in and all the thing I do. To him it is just not necessary. Whatever! I'm simply tired of his nonsense. like I'm not tiring and busy enough. Back from work, I got to take care Aisleyne, clean her up, breastfeed her, pump milk, sometimes still need to bath for Amabel (when he refused to help), prepare milk for Amabel & brush her teeth and make sure she sleep early. Putting Aisleyne to sleep. And all this I have to BAO KA LIAO when he is working night or happily enjoying outside; pa billard, kick soccer, watch movie. He must feel blessed that I never leave my two kids at home with him, if I got program with my buddies. I alway bring both or either one of them. I know he can never handle this two hyperactive kids. Unless he get the maid to help, like that the maid can't do housework at all. Sometimes the maid to handle two thing at a time which is very dangerous. So I don't like at all. cause he's always complaining. And till now he still can't accept that I actually bring both the kids out alone shopping without anyone and pram. He keeps telling everyone that I sure cannot handle my two mischevious kids alone. But the reality is that, I DID IT without any problem, be it at home or outside. though is very tiring, but I managed it well I really hate myself cause I don't have the energy to even stand up for myself anymore. Cause no point argue back. 死的，他都可以講成活的。 so let him win lor. I'm just so tired of defending for myself when the finger is keep pointing at me with all sort of stupid thing. If I do, sure alot of things gonna happened again. I'm very good at creating all sort of hoola... that turn the world upside down for me. That everyone will start ke 頭. Don't wish to make my close one worry for me anymore. Don't wish to run away from home again. Cause now I got two kids, he sure cannot handle one. Don't want my precious ones to suffer. No time to reply comments and tags liao. Very tired, got to sleep now. Will reply soon. Goodnight everyone here! Labels: Problems, Relationship, Roles of a Father, Roles of a Husband, Words for you ADVERTISEMENTS
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date: Friday, June 27, 2008 time : 10:55 PM Temper Tantrum Amabel just fall asleep. After her big cry, I coax her to brush her teeth and get her to bed. I feel so bad for scolding her fiercely once again. I hug and pat her to sleep. Keep talking to her, comfort her and making her feel better. Cause I know some tantrums are often traumatizing to a child. And I promised her to bring her out and to play see-saw tomorrow. In a short while, she is in her dreamland. Hope I not frighten her just now. Feel so remorseful now. Kept asking myself why I react in such way. Feel like crying once again. Aww…. She has been throwing temper. It make me couldn't breath, blood vessel hit to the max. She is testing my patience and yes I was defeated. I become very frustrated and scold her again and again when she again and again stepping my nerve. She abit abit also cannot, very stubborn, out of sudden will throw temper if thing doesn't goes her way. She will start kicking, stomping, pounding, screaming and yelling, crying and throwing the body on the floor. Completely unwilling to listen to or comply with any efforts to pacify the situation. I will place her in a corner, telling her to remain in there until she is in a better mood, but she just keep crying non stop. Often, even when the reason for the temper tantrum is settled (we finally gives in, though most of the time I don’t, just trying to distract and calm her), still she may not even reach a level of calm or satisfaction. After awhile, another thing that doesn’t go her way, she will throw temper once again. Argh..... I have attended course on handling temper tantrum. In order for the transition to occur smoothly, it is important for the parent to maintain a level head and not get angry with their child. Cause anger only adds fuel to the fire of a temper tantrum. Remaining calm is a must when dealing with a tantrum. But…. I just couldn’t control. Aww….really hate myself Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Problems ADVERTISEMENTS
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date: Friday, June 06, 2008 time : 9:55 AM Argh………. Any sandbag for me to hit? Anyone encountered this kind of situation before? Just over one night, my head is cracking, going to burst. Feeling so heavy! No mood to work, not enough sleep cause yesterday night searching for information. Got to put on a smile to customers when in bad mood is never easy for me. Sian! Why problems came at the same time? Problem 1 Father-in-law’s health is not in good condition now. He need to rest well and anytime, there may be thing happened to him. So hubby thought of this time round, don’t get him to cook confinement food for me. I can understand, of course I want him to have good rest also and recover. But this turned out to be so sudden!! Hubby suggested getting Confinement Lady (hubby’s aunt in Malaysia); but think about it… I don’t really want… cause no point 1. More expensive; Average rate 1.8k onward + food need to buy for CL to cook, overall at least need 2.8k 2. I am sure I’m going to breastfeed my girl again, so got CL or no CL make no difference. I still couldn’t get enough rest cause I surely need to wake up every 2 hours 24/7 to breastfeed. I can get my maid to help with housework, bathe baby, wash bottles and taking good care of Amabel. Taking care of baby I can handle. Afterall, for my first baby, all the thing is done by me except bathing baby, so I came across the hardship before, I believe I can do it. 3. I am sure there is a lot of conflict between me and CL. Don’t really trust CL way of handling baby, though they maybe professional but most of the thing they done may not be the right way and cause I am too particular and paranoid when come to taking care of baby. Will possibly resort in cater for confinement food from http://www.newbaby.com.sg/. At least need to spent 1k+ but heard a lot of rave from mommies. Problem 2 Maid wants to continue to work for us for another 1 or 2 year. She told us quite sometime ago but she requested to go back her hometown to visit her parent and relative for a month. We agreed cause we understand that she is missing her parent there and want to go back see and spend sometime with them. But now the problem is she wants to go back in November. The very first time I already told her is impossible cause my maternity leave will end by that time and I need to go back work…then who is going to take care my newborn for that month. I suggested her to go back in July (although I will need to take leave but at least my replacement is here already and boss can allow me to take leave), if not will be September or early October 08 so at least I am around to take care Amabel and Aisleyne. Not possible to go back in August as I will be having my confinement. Ok then she told us that she will go back in early October then but two days ago, she told us that her parent want her to go back in November to get marry. I am wondering is it an excuse that she wants me to accept her request to go back in November cause initially she never mentioned about getting married. If really let her go back for holiday, got to withhold her 2-month salary just in case she never come back. Now I am trouble whether to get a new maid if she insists to go back in November, as I really cannot take leave since by then the replacement will leave. But came to think about it, I am quite satisfied with my maid cause she dote on Amabel, can handle her quite well though there is still a few bad points about her but no maid is perfect so I won’t expect too much also. If change new maid, I will need to train, supervise, make sure the new maid is trustable before I can leave baby under her care when I go back work. And now is not easy to get a good maid. So to change a new maid or let the maid goes back in November if she insisted? Either ways, both required us to spend money on. Got to settle this soon cause not much time left. Shall talk to the maid again. Surely got a way out. Got to stay cool. 
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hi.. i juz came accross ur blog.. u r a gd mother actualli. i do face the same problem as u but u r much more lucky becos at least u stil have a maid whereby i onli alone takin care of 2 boys n all the housework... look at the bright side, ignore all the words tat affect u... do wat is rite...
Hi Ya me too face the same problem as you bt me too dun have a maid.
Come on we got to be strong dun let the words turn us down.
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having a maid can be good but can be very bad also. Mentally stress; whether maid can take good care of the kids , this and that. This is worst than physically tiring. Not as good as you think. But no choice I got to work.