I'm patience!!!
And this missy has been driving me crazy. She knows I never ever will give in to her, why everytime she still trying her luck; screaming, throwing huge tantrum to get what she wants and got on my nerves. Hubby said both of us are wilful (including Aisleyne).
Yes! She follows my character, wondering how I should discipline her...


Angry with mommy!!!
Hubby said:"你们俩母女，一人让一步啦." haahaa, definitely won't be me! cause is for her own good! Hope she get it!

Labels: Amabel's character

JUST
as I were walking pass those wards and clinics,
saw this little girl, perhaps with illness and was handicap.
Suddenly, I'm thinking
what if, one day Amabel is like her
Will I still have the heart to beat her so terribly when she make me very angry?

Suddenly, I feel so aching.
Just so ache...
that I can't even breath.

Have I been a good Mom?
Even the Daddy who she loves most and closes to also being stress up by her wilfulness,
couldn't control but to raise his hand on her.
Think she must be real sad, don't understand why we want to punish and beat her and why we're against her?

This Wednesday will be bringing her to consult a paediatric in CDU referred by boss.
to diagnose whether a psychiatric and psychologist is needed

Hope it do help and make it less pain to everyone.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character

Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)

Back from supper after the praying event, reach home faster breastfeed Aisleyne.
Supposed to pump milk to empty the breast after breastfeeding but too tired and fell asleep.
Woke up @ 2am after a hour of sleep, then faster re-sterilise my pumps. While waiting for the sterilising process, I fell alseep again for another hour.
Imagine how tired I am, insufficient sleep even in weekend.
I shouldn't be complaining since I insisted to breastfeed my girl.
And this gonna continue as far as I can persist, hopefully more than 2 years (my set target)
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Am now expressing milk and surfing net
Just saw a comment from reader about the possibility of Amabel having ADHD.
This made me search for more infomations on ADD/ADHD

After getting informations from afew sources
I don't think Amabel is suffering from ADD/ADHD
But I will not rule this out until a psychologist evaluation.

These are the the symptoms of ADHD
Children who have symptoms of inattention may:

• Be easily distracted, miss details, forget things, and frequently switch from one activity to another

eg. If your child headed towards his room intending to put the toys away, but quickly got caught up on the way in playing with a real neat toy, his/her "non-compliance" is not necessarily intentional and may represent the distractibility and difficulty completing tasks that is characteristic of ADHD. If, however, your child argued about having to pick up the toys, and basically refused to do it, the non-compliance is deliberate and willful, and is no longer attributable to ADHD per se.

Amabel will argue back and refuse to do it. From what I observed, she is more to deliberately and willful rather than distractibility and having difficulty completing tasks.

• Have difficulty focusing on one thing

Amabel doesn't have this problem. When she is doing matching game, she can focus very well and do it very well.

• Become bored with a task after only a few minutes, unless they are doing something enjoyable.

Which children won't get bored when doing things which don't interest them!? Even for adult too.

• Have difficulty focusing attention on organizing and completing a task or learning something new

Amabel learns new thing pretty well without any assisting.

• Have trouble completing or turning in homework assignments, often losing things (e.g., pencils, toys, assignments) needed to complete tasks or activities

So far never receive such feedback from her teacher. The file that she bring back monthly; she completed all her school assignments except those that is empty with the red remark "Absent"

• Not seem to listen when spoken to

I know that she is listening, just that she refusing to listen. my comment: playful, headstrong especially when she think she is not in wrong, she will close her ears.

• Daydream, become easily confused, and move slowly

I don't think she got such problem. She only move slowly (throwing tantrum actually) when me and hubby walking beyond her, leaving her behind. And also early in the morning, being waken up by me to school, still in sleepy mode

• Have difficulty processing information as quickly and accurately as others

She definitely don't have such problem

• Struggle to follow instructions.

Can follow instructions very well unless she is not in the mood to.


Children who have symptoms of hyperactivity may:

• Fidget and squirm in their seats

Nope, she don't do that unless she is throwing tantrum

• Talk nonstop

She likes to talk, this is the age where they still learning to talk right, so they will tend to talk alot.

• Dash around, touching or playing with anything and everything in sight

I should said she is curious. Which children at such age not curious with the things around them right

• Have trouble sitting still during dinner, school, and story time

Only if she no longer feel like eating her meal. As for in school, so far no bad feedback from teacher. Story time at home, she will enjoy me reading it to her for the first few pages then snatch it away from me and wanna read it her own.

• Be constantly in motion

Nope. She jumps, hop, skip etc. She is active and just want to play

• Have difficulty doing quiet tasks or activities.

She loves drawing, colouring and reading. Playing toys too. Can at least hold her there for at least 15mins, is this consider quiet task??

Children who have symptoms of impulsivity may:

• Be very impatient

Yes. But not alway; she is more to excited, eager to get it so can't wait.

• Blurt out inappropriate comments, show their emotions without restraint, and act without regard for consequences

Yes. especially when she is in anger, she will self torture. That is what we need help with from psychologist, anger management is the big problem she needs help with

• Have difficulty waiting for things they want or waiting their turns in games

Yes. but sometimes if we explain to her, or talk nicely to her the need to wait, she will listen, though not often. Think most children is like that right

• Often interrupt conversations or others' activities..

Think children at her age still don't know when they shouldn't interrupt other people action or speech

I took these photos just now during the praying event.

The most fierceful person in her life; "二姨婆"
Frightened till don't even dare to move and get out of the chair.
She asked her to do what, she don't dare to oppose the instructions at all.

二姨婆 is brainwashing her. Explaning to her why she shouldn't beat or kick others and screaming.



hence her such behaviour needs punishment. Stand on a chair, finger on the lip.


Amazingly, 二姨婆 can alway keep her still and well behave whenever she is around.
She behave so well and sit still there for at least 30mins till I find her pitiful and save her. haha!

We very bad. Keep laughing secretly at her reaction and expression. wahaha

The just over morning, she heard a band out at the house window, she thought is lion dance (her favourite). She keeps wanting to see.

Amabel: Mommy! Oh lang shai (Lion dance). I want to see.

Mommy: Not the lang shai Lion dance lah. Is for people died one.

Amabel: I want to see people died

Mommy: People died. The funeral cannot see one.

Amabel then walked away. After awhile, she came to the kitchen hugging with a mickey mouse balloon.

Amabel: Mommy! Mickey mouse want to see lang shai (Lion dance)outside, can or not?

Faint!

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, My Gallery, Talking

Stress? Yes
Tired? Yes


Today Amabel's teacher passed hubby this when he fetch her.
Teacher Tuti suggested us to consult a doctor on her behaviour.

She has been throwing temper with no reason, get agitated over very small little thing or nothing.
Oh at least in school, she is quite well behave, won't scream so much like what she did at home or with us.
According to teacher's remarks, she is very independent; can play on her own or with a group.
But teacher was quite surprise sometime over her self torture behaviour when she is in anger.
She will keep screaming, torturing herself by pulling her hairs, biting herself, fisting.
No one can handle her.
When people saw her behaviour, they will goes wow *headache*.
Am planning to bring her to see child psychologist on behavioural issues , anger management or whatever that is need to help.
If not me and my hubby will be goes crazy soon.

We should address this soon before it get worst.
Think parent-child communication and parenting issues plays apart, I think we maybe the culprit to her such behaviour.
So psychologist may help us on this.
Hopefully.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character

Told hubby that I really cannot tahan Amabel anymore.
Hubby: I thought you said she is your precious angel? Your blog put “mypreciousangel leh”
He keeps teasing me.
Me: No she had become a devil. I am going to change the name to “mypreciousdevil”

These are what she always said
1) “Mommy naughty girl, you selfish, you go away (pointing at me). Naughty Mommy” (pout the lip some more)
2) “Daddy good girl (we added: “nonono daddy is a boy”), Aisleyne meimei good girl, Eni jiejie good girl, Gugu (姑姑) good girl, Mommy naughty girl”
3) “I love Daddy. I don’t want Mommy.”
4) “You love Daddy or Mommy?” Amabel: “I love Daddy”

Haha think she really hated me

But if she saw me with sweet or biscuit and she wants it.
Her attitude changed
Amabel: “I love Mommy.” (Hug and kiss my lip and both side of my lip)
Mommy: “You love Daddy or Mommy?”
Amabel: “I love Mommy”

Faint!

And she learnt a few Chinese words from school.

Just in the morning, we are coaxing her to wear shoe and prepare to go school
Mommy: Amabel, faster wear your shoe. We are going to be late for the bus already
Amabel: (shouted) 不要

Sunday went to my grandmother-in-law’s house.
Haha relative all got shocked by her super power scream and headstrong character

Amabel got a new title “一代女高音” + “cheah charbo (fierce girl)”

They never seem a kid like this before
Everybody is so scare of her.
And she is so mischevious and hyperactive
Can you imagine how stressful we are, when we gonna face her everyday.

Midnight, Amabel is still running around in the bedroom, shouting, screaming, laughing, throwing tantrum.
Hubby said: 我已经用完我的精力， 很累了。她还那样active.

We raised "White Flag" to surrender already.

A video took sometime ago.
Switch off my blog background music first - on the right panel. Amabel is singing Barney song.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Words for you

Still feeling super bad,
Don't wanna scold you again and again but.... Hai!
No one can understand me except those friends of mine who have more than one kids.
So I think of speaking to Valerie or sms Maggie.

I always apology to you after I vent my anger on you.
But you doesn't seems to know what is happening.
I know is useless cause I already afflicted those pain and fierce to you

Want to apology to you again for those times that I have lost my patience;
forcefully dragged you away from dangers, I know you will feel pain,
pulled you hard up from the floor when you insisted on lying down and fussing and licking the floor to show your anger,
put you in the naughty corner when you refused to obey,
point my finger on you and firmly scold you when you defied my order,

Those pain that I inflicted on you actually lasted much longer on me, I believed your daddy feel that too.
It making me realised that I have still so much to learn on being a good mother.
I wouldn't said I am a bad mother but I believe I can be better if i try to

Perhaps I should try to let you have more enrichment classes where you get to play with other kids because you loves company and you will be so much happier when there are more friends around.
Like during Aisleyne's full month, you are much well behave.
When I brought you to Valerie Aunty house, you enough playing the toy there with Jarad, you never make much noises.
Hoping that when Aisleyne get bigger can accompany you play and at least you won't feel being left out or lonely.


But asking me whether want to have another more sibling to play with them.
Definitely not so soon... really scare of it already

An age gap of 2 is really a disastrous that I am going through now, maybe 3 year or 4 years apart will be better as they have gone through the most difficult phase.
Can't imagine twin or triplet, the whole house will turn upside down.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Words for you

8 Aug 08 scan (38 weeks 1days gestation age)

I could feel that the little one is getting very low now, alot of her movement can be feel around the pelvic area and bone.
Baby weight is measured 3.058kg now, Dr Khi said that if baby deliver now, will be within the weight range 2.6kg - 3.4kg.
Everything is fine, other than baby engaged and dilated, there is no other sign of going to labor yet. She said still can wait, until baby is ready to come out.
Dr Khi never do a VE for me this time, no need to, just need to wait for the sign. But does a CTG to monitor the baby heartbeat and also the contraction.
She jokes and ask whether I want a 08.08.2008 or 09.08.2008 baby, I laughed and replied, let the little one decide ba, perhaps she want to be same birthday as her sister 0r another nicer date 20.08.2008.

Glad that result of bacteria has once again confirm cleared.

Left 8 more days, so does the little one prefer 20.08.2008 or 21.08.2008. Let wait and see. he!





















Here my little rascal.

Pic-> Act gangster

She loves to pout and act cute faces, with her words, the way she talk, making us loves her even more. She is very good at expressing herself now, alot of very funny actions and expression. Though she is very naughty but how not to love her even more each day.

Now she is learning chineses and she can pick up thing and words very well and fast.

Me->

Labels: 3rd Trimester, Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Fetal movement, Gynae checkup, My Gallery, Pregnancy, Talking

Temper Tantrum

Amabel just fall asleep.
After her big cry, I coax her to brush her teeth and get her to bed.
I feel so bad for scolding her fiercely once again. I hug and pat her to sleep. Keep talking to her, comfort her and making her feel better. Cause I know some tantrums are often traumatizing to a child. And I promised her to bring her out and to play see-saw tomorrow.
In a short while, she is in her dreamland.

Hope I not frighten her just now. Feel so remorseful now. Kept asking myself why I react in such way.

Feel like crying once again. Aww….

She has been throwing temper. It make me couldn't breath, blood vessel hit to the max. She is testing my patience and yes I was defeated. I become very frustrated and scold her again and again when she again and again stepping my nerve. She abit abit also cannot, very stubborn, out of sudden will throw temper if thing doesn't goes her way. She will start kicking, stomping, pounding, screaming and yelling, crying and throwing the body on the floor. Completely unwilling to listen to or comply with any efforts to pacify the situation.
I will place her in a corner, telling her to remain in there until she is in a better mood, but she just keep crying non stop.
Often, even when the reason for the temper tantrum is settled (we finally gives in, though most of the time I don’t, just trying to distract and calm her), still she may not even reach a level of calm or satisfaction. After awhile, another thing that doesn’t go her way, she will throw temper once again.

Argh.....

I have attended course on handling temper tantrum. In order for the transition to occur smoothly, it is important for the parent to maintain a level head and not get angry with their child. Cause anger only adds fuel to the fire of a temper tantrum. Remaining calm is a must when dealing with a tantrum.
But…. I just couldn’t control.

Aww….really hate myself

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Problems

Sometime I really hate myself…

Why I so emotion?
Why I being so stubborn?
Why I a little bit also cannot?
Why I being so strict to you?
Why I couldn’t control my temper and scolded you? … When you are just a little kid being mischievous
Why I couldn’t get myself to wake up immediately when you crying from nightmare? A few times I actually just continue lying on bed and let you continue crying for a while by just patting to sooth you, hoping you will stop crying and back to sleep. Sometime you stop but yesterday you didn’t, you cried until real loud then I woke up to carry you, that is only then you slowly stopped and back to sleep. Actually I feel very bad about it, cause it must be you really need me then you cried for us but none of us wake up to carry you. I keep saying sorry to you including this morning.

But ever since I am pregnant, now being the 27 weeks
Amabel’s temper getting worst than before,
she likes throwing tantrum, abit also cannot...
Refusing to said “sorry”…
Refusing to accept punishment if she did something wrong.
Husband said her character and attitude really like me.
When we go out, If we left her walk alone behind us... she gets angry, idle and stand at there, give a moody face, head down, eyes sadly look at us. If we just ask her to catch up with us, she refused. Insist waiting us to go forward to her, holding her hand to walk. At time, we didn't, she start to cry and scream until we go forward to carry her and comfort her. Really like to 发大小姐脾气.
And she has been sleeping late once again. She is hyper-energetic and likes us to play with her and won’t want me to switch off the room light. I told her is her sleeping bed now but she refused and kept crying and screaming, pointing to the light switch, requesting me to ON it. If there is someone outside the room not yet sleep- she saw the light outside; she will cry… pointing to the door and said, “OPEN…open”. I always refused by distracting her.
Even if I managed to switch off the light and get her to bed, she will keep peering into my eyes in the dark to make sure I sleep before she will sleep. She seems to be very tired, tossing about on the bed, with her blanket rubbing her eyes. But once she saw me getting up from my bed, she will suddenly turn very awake, following me. I know if husband and me not getting into bed and sleep, she will sure wanna play and be awake. But me couldn’t get to sleep so early like 9pm or 10pm, cause by the time I feed her milk, clean her and change her into pajamas, brushing her teeth, reading her books is already 9plus – Time to put her to sleep and I not yet got the time to bath. So how am I going to sleep with her? Even if I get to bathe slightly earlier, I also need to wait for my hair to dry and it take an hour. I don’t use hair dryer cause I no time to blow dry my super long hair cause I need to prepare Amabel to sleep.

This girl likes to drink water just like me; which is a good thing. Recently, in the middle of the night she will wake up looking for her water bottle. Sometime she will wake me up, pass me her water bottle to open the cover for her to drink. If not, after drinking she will wake me up to ask me put back the water bottle for her. Wondering she is lazy or purposely want to wake me up. Lol~ and then continue back to sleep again. There is once she couldn’t find the water bottle, which I always put it on our bedside table, which is just behind her mattress (I forgot and left it on the table in the living room). She actually went out to the living room to look for it. Luckily I notice her walking out of the room, so I faster follow, she looking around the living room, I faster carry her and asked “What you want?” She replied: “Water”. Yah I left it in the living room so I bring it to her.

Amabel...there is something that really Sweet about you!

I love seeing you sleep, you look so innocent not the usual mischievous girl anymore, I always couldn’t control but to start planting kisses all over your face and body and smelling you all over including your stinky diaper. Lol~
Most of the time, I will want you to sleep in our bed so I can snuggle close to you. You like to do that also… but after awhile you will find it uncomfortable to toss about in between us in our Queen size bed, you choose to crawl back to your own bed.

A few times, you woke up, still laze on the bed with eyes opened; you mumble out all names you know “Daddy, Mi Mi, Ah Ping, Ah Hong, Tong tong, 爷爷 etc. I looked at you surprisingly and you give me a shy smile.

When we are in the lift with someone, you will keep looking at them, trying to make friend with them and when leaving you will wave and said 'byebye' to the person(s) in a very sweet tone with flying kisses. But this is only happened when you are in a good mood and not too concentrate in your own thing.

You love waiting outside the toilet door, banging on it when I am showering, keeps calling "mimi....mimi" all the time. So nowadays I don’t close door so you can lookout for me whenever you want. You love seeing me showering and giving me a very infectious smile and trying to play with me outside the shower screen. It came with a lot of laughing.

Whenever I sing the Barney song “I Love you, you love me, we are happy family…” You will follow me sing and tighten your arms and legs around me in a very warm Koala hug and give me a lovely kiss.
Sometime you really do something very sweet, you will said “I…. Love…. YOU!!” with your index finger of both hands pointing to the person, face bringing along a big smile.
That day you suddenly came over to give me a very warm hug, you rest on my arm for a while and kisses me.
Once, you looked at me innocently and resting your forehead on my forehead, we look at each other eye to eye. It just bring smile to my face, it melts my heart, and I really like that kind of feeling. I feel that you do love me a lot though I have been strict on you.

Sometime you will just out of sudden keep smiling sillies. Such a happy girl. You like to look at the mirror, smile and talk to yourself who is in the mirror and laughing. Look silly but so cute.

Seeing that always make me feel so blessing despite how you always drained me out.

Same old word….”Never ever regret before!”

The happy moment 19 May 08, Suntec City










My happy and cheerful baobei on 19 may 08, Her Grand-greatma house


When she saw the person she scare of giving her a fury face, she automatic punished herself by quietly sitting at a side, crossing her legs, fold her arms and finger on her lip. No sound from her after that.
So kelian yet so cute. She makes everyone laugh by showing her innocent yet so cute and sweet expression.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Words for you

Can understands all instructions and responds to the instructions correctly

Good habit

Morning when she wake up, if her diaper is very wet, she will touch her diaper and said to me "Mimi change" or "Mimi wet". She loves reading books. Anytime of the day, she may think of reading book and go to her book shelf and took all the books and want us to read to her. Sometime once wake up, she may think of it and want to read book and before sleeping time too. And she choose book that she wants to read.

Other abilities

Can walk up and down a single step of stairs without any support. can jump, can sort the shape well, Self-feeding (but depend on her mood), Drink milk on her own (sometime do get lazy and want us to hold for her), Brush her own teeth (Not properly brush clean, so still need our help), rinse her mouth.

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Milestone, My Gallery, Vaccinations, weaning

Big Sister

Soon Amabel will be a big sister already. She has grow up to be one already. I can feel that she care a lot on her family. She needs a happy family. We noticed that she's very protect us. She doesn’t allow others to bully us.. nor me and my hubby quarreling or fighting. She will cry, shout, scream and push either one away. And for the past few weeks, we noticed that she likes to grasp hubby’s hand and my hand, want us to hold each other. There is once she holds hubby’s hand and pushes him to hug and cuddle me. Whenever we rise up our voice, she thought we are quarreling and start to get angry; cried and screamed. She is trying to stop us from it. She treats us fairly; when hubby or me ask her to give me/hubby a kiss, she will kiss both instead. I really didn’t expect such a young kid would do that. She is making us love her even more and more each day even though most of the day she is naughty and throwing tantrum alot.

Sometimes ago she learn not to be so lazy; when we offering her milk, she’ll self-feed herself. During Lunch and dinner, we do let her self-feed too. She masters it pretty well, but after awhile she’ll start to play around with the food. And we got to continue feeding her so she’ll finish up the food.

Pic taken this morning, 7.45am






























Video taken a few days ago

Coming up soon….


Amabel LOVE to READ
Amabel love reading storybooks. Everyday, she will take the book, flipping and reading and will ask me/hubby to read to her. Just this morning, she woke up, keep smiling at me. She self-feed the first milk feed whilst I preparing for work. She finished it and saw the storybooks on the bedside table, which I forgot to put back to the shelf after I read to her yesterday night. She grasped my hand and wants me read to her. Keep saying “Read…read book.” I told her, “Tonight Mommy come home then read to you k? Cause I’m going for my work soon”. She cried and refused, keep holding those books and pester me to read. No choice… I told her “Ok Mommy read just one storybook for you”. She enjoys it and wants me to continue another books. Haha! I took such a long time to get her put down the books and go wash up and I off for work.



































Not forgetting about my little one in the womb.

Here a pic of my 17weeks 2days belly, taken on 15 March 08 while I trying on the dress given by Sz as a birthday present.

Am going to take my watch for repair, one of the crystals dropped and the watch stopped moving. Sad!

Lastly a pic of us...

Labels: Amabel's behaviour, Amabel's character, Family, My Gallery, Pregnancy