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 .jpg)  Our Lil Princess: Amabel Loh Birthday: 21 August 2006 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 38weeks 3days Weight at Birth: 3.005kg Length at Birth: 47cm Breastfeed: 14 months  Our 2nd Lil Princess: Aisleyne Loh Birthday: 15 August 2008 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 39weeks 2days Weight at Birth: 3.010kg Length at Birth: 48cm Breastfeed: 3 years+  |
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date: Monday, August 04, 2008 time : 3:31 AM I wrote this as a post instead. The comment received in the previous post. Anonymous said... i am surprise why you say "its great" that Amabel did not ask for your ex-maid when she woke up. wouldn't you want your daughter to have at least some kind of feeling for someone that's taken care of her after all those times? ok- i agree your maid is not very good sometimes...but afterall, she did take care of your daughter at the times when you most needed her. does that not mean anything to you at all? now she's gone. you should let your daughter know the truth that the maid is gone, and simply assure her you will be there for her or even if there's another maid coming. just pretending the maid did not exist in my opinion isn't right. how did you know that your daughter did not want to 'save' the lovely memories of your ex-maid in her head? people come and go in our lives, but just pretending they did not exist just isn't right. we are all human with compassion...surely you must agree with this.i am not against you or anything..just thought this may be something you wish to think about that's all. last of all, don't worry too much...i really think you are a great mum ! To you, just a word "Great" can said so much about how I feel on the maid? From where tell you that I never ever tell my girl that the maid is gone and will no longer taking care her? Of course, it is great to me that my girl doesn't ask for the maid when she is not around. I doesn't want my girl to cry like hell, throwing tanthrum. It will be hard for the person who is taking care her. I wouldn't want my girl to be like my hubby's cousin, a 6 year old kid threatened to commit suide when his mom, want to send the maid off. That's why his mom still keeping the maid till now despite the maid's extreme demands. So weren't it great for a parent? My girl is just a 2 year old kid, and it is normal to me that she can easily forget about thing or person when they never get to see them. It doesn't mean my daughter don't have feeling for someone that has been taken care of her after those times. So why shall I pretending the maid did not exist? I don't have to and I don't need to. "LIKE the maid never exist in her life" is just a phrase I used. And it can make you think that I am pretending? Ha!? Of course I am still very appreciate that the maid have been taking care of my girl. But that is in my heart, I don't have to said it out if I find it is hard cause I still couldn't accept that she said we are not good enough. Then how well a maid expect us to treat them, treat them like a Queen? Despite I am very disappointment about all her actions and demanding, never put her position on us. Just because she don't like my mom-in-law keep scolding her, making her don't like all the person around her is not right. Since she's not happy working with us, why she still want to continue her contract? Why I asked her if she unhappy working here, I can find her a better employer and she always refused. I couldn't explain this. I wouldn't wish to keep someone who is not happy working with us, it can be something bad over sometime. To me she is already turning to bad, from the letter she wrote can explain this, keep saying we don't trust her and believe her, complaining. She giving attitude, talking back. She even sent and sms to my relative maid saying that she want to jump down from a building just because my mother-in-law nagging at her. Still I keep her (a bomb) around with me after that incident when she insisted still want to continue work with us. Still till the last day, I still treat her like a member in the house, no ill-treat. I wouldn't want to explain more about all these. All my friends around me know how well we treated our maid and were surprise what she said about us. Wouldn't I have enough human compassion? Just that I truely disappointment on her. That's all. Still I won't because of her and treat my new maid badly. Cause I know is just that my ex-maid expectation from us is too high. I learn a lesson from this ex-maid and I will try to limit it. So the maid won't crawl to my head and thinking that she can demand for things easily. Till today I still think I do the right move. Labels: Maid 10 Comments:
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I think what my sister's family spent on her is more than what she deserves. hahaha.
hi there,
i think you've taken this in the wrong context. i simply thought you were happy that your daughter did not remember your ex-maid which honestly i was shocked for someone like you would think that.
you have clearly explained now its because you are indeed happy because your daughter can cope without the maid.
you are right that perhaps she was turning bad and had a bad attitude. i completely agree with you on that one. and if she is becoming unacceptable then you've done absoutely the right thing to have got rid of her.
i did not imply that your decision to get send her back was wrong. i simply thought you did not want your daugther to remember the maid all.
you were unfortunate that your maid has turned out that way. i hope your new maid would be better. im sure you tried your best to be with the ex-maid who she clearly did not appreciate. just try again. i always believe in treating a maid that way you would want someone to treat your own daughter, simply because she is also someone else's daughter.
good luck with the new maid.
To anonymous,
I think u're the one in the wrong context.
What do u mean by "i simply thought you were happy that your daughter did not remember your ex-maid which honestly i was shocked for someone like you would think that."
Do you mean you know eling very well? If you do, you would have know she's happy because her daughter dont behave as though the whole world has collasped when the maid is gone.
What's wrong with her being happy that her daughter cannot remember the maid?
I suppose for other mothers, they'll be happy if their kids cannot remember the maid becos of one simple reason like eling - the child is getting independent instead of the child being uncompassionate as to not remembering someone who has taken care of them.
For Amabel's age, she will eventually forget abt the maid.
Pls refrain from making unnecessary comments if you dont know the person well.
Hope you're not offended by the above becos it's just my opinion after seeing some unhappy incidents caused by "comments".
Leann, it is just a misundestood i think, the words we phrased. I think anonymous doesn't mean that.
Anyway it is not easy to handle maid, those who have maid should know that.Just pray hard that my new maid is easy handle. lol~
Well.. it's all from my point of view..
Anon may not mean anything but from my point of view he/she is definitely trying to tell you this "hey, you should teach your daughter to be more compassionate" than to feel happy over her being uncompassionate.
I seriously dont think that you'll need someone to guide you on how you should educate your child. Furthermore, if he/she does not even know you well, all the more he/she should not comment.
Anyway, i just buey song nia.. i suppose u felt the same too if not you wouldnt be clarifying urself.
i am not sure why leann is so aggressive over this matter? in my last post, i have already explained and clarify that it was my mistake that i misunderstood how i thought it was meant something else.
further more, i have not at any one time imply or initiate any thoughts that angel mummy is a bad mother that she wants to daughter to forget people once they are gone. and again i have said IN MY OPINION, and the original statments were "words for thought". in addition, Leann have clearly wrote that "What's wrong with her being happy that her daughter have forgotten the maid". doesn't this explains all?
i am definitely not trying to educate any mummy as i know its hard enough trying to be a mother not to mention trying to be best for your own children.
i personally think that angel mummy's reply to my post was with no bad intention and thought it was excellent that she feels good in her own choice and did not feel that she needed anyone elses to assure her actions. she has defended herself very well to my post and i did not think she had any bad feeling about this (or 'buey song' as you have said'. she just simply explained herself that what i initally thought was incorrect and told me what she actually meant.
i think you will find that most people blog hop around and stay with a few blogs that they enjoy reading and angel mommy's blog is one of them. admitedly i do not know angel mommy very well, but at that moment in time i felt i wanted to express my opinion. this is a free world and society. i did not think i made any cruel comments which if I had then I would be willing and more than happy to apologise to angel mommy.
Hi Leann and Anonymous,
I know both of you mean well. It is just a misunderstanding ba. Let not argue over all those comments.
Cheer!
hi angel mommy,
im glad you saw this was an understanding.
enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and keep us updated on your new arrival.
:)
Meimei,
Nah, i dont think we're not having arguments but an exchange of views.
People do think differently & i'm always amazed by the different views that different people has on the same issue/situation.
Humans cannot express well through wordings & most of the time ended up with misunderstandings. It's very common. Like I mention in my 1st comment that i hope the comment wont offend anyone.
Agreed that it is just a comment from different people point of view. So hope all the above comments is not offensive to anyone. Cheer k!