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 .jpg)  Our Lil Princess: Amabel Loh Birthday: 21 August 2006 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 38weeks 3days Weight at Birth: 3.005kg Length at Birth: 47cm Breastfeed: 14 months  Our 2nd Lil Princess: Aisleyne Loh Birthday: 15 August 2008 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 39weeks 2days Weight at Birth: 3.010kg Length at Birth: 48cm Breastfeed: 3 years+  |
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title: Problems
date: Friday, June 06, 2008 time : 9:55 AM Argh………. Any sandbag for me to hit? Anyone encountered this kind of situation before? Just over one night, my head is cracking, going to burst. Feeling so heavy! No mood to work, not enough sleep cause yesterday night searching for information. Got to put on a smile to customers when in bad mood is never easy for me. Sian! Why problems came at the same time? Problem 1 Father-in-law’s health is not in good condition now. He need to rest well and anytime, there may be thing happened to him. So hubby thought of this time round, don’t get him to cook confinement food for me. I can understand, of course I want him to have good rest also and recover. But this turned out to be so sudden!! Hubby suggested getting Confinement Lady (hubby’s aunt in Malaysia); but think about it… I don’t really want… cause no point 1. More expensive; Average rate 1.8k onward + food need to buy for CL to cook, overall at least need 2.8k 2. I am sure I’m going to breastfeed my girl again, so got CL or no CL make no difference. I still couldn’t get enough rest cause I surely need to wake up every 2 hours 24/7 to breastfeed. I can get my maid to help with housework, bathe baby, wash bottles and taking good care of Amabel. Taking care of baby I can handle. Afterall, for my first baby, all the thing is done by me except bathing baby, so I came across the hardship before, I believe I can do it. 3. I am sure there is a lot of conflict between me and CL. Don’t really trust CL way of handling baby, though they maybe professional but most of the thing they done may not be the right way and cause I am too particular and paranoid when come to taking care of baby. Will possibly resort in cater for confinement food from http://www.newbaby.com.sg/. At least need to spent 1k+ but heard a lot of rave from mommies. Problem 2 Maid wants to continue to work for us for another 1 or 2 year. She told us quite sometime ago but she requested to go back her hometown to visit her parent and relative for a month. We agreed cause we understand that she is missing her parent there and want to go back see and spend sometime with them. But now the problem is she wants to go back in November. The very first time I already told her is impossible cause my maternity leave will end by that time and I need to go back work…then who is going to take care my newborn for that month. I suggested her to go back in July (although I will need to take leave but at least my replacement is here already and boss can allow me to take leave), if not will be September or early October 08 so at least I am around to take care Amabel and Aisleyne. Not possible to go back in August as I will be having my confinement. Ok then she told us that she will go back in early October then but two days ago, she told us that her parent want her to go back in November to get marry. I am wondering is it an excuse that she wants me to accept her request to go back in November cause initially she never mentioned about getting married. If really let her go back for holiday, got to withhold her 2-month salary just in case she never come back. Now I am trouble whether to get a new maid if she insists to go back in November, as I really cannot take leave since by then the replacement will leave. But came to think about it, I am quite satisfied with my maid cause she dote on Amabel, can handle her quite well though there is still a few bad points about her but no maid is perfect so I won’t expect too much also. If change new maid, I will need to train, supervise, make sure the new maid is trustable before I can leave baby under her care when I go back work. And now is not easy to get a good maid. So to change a new maid or let the maid goes back in November if she insisted? Either ways, both required us to spend money on. Got to settle this soon cause not much time left. Shall talk to the maid again. Surely got a way out. Got to stay cool. 13 Comments:
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13 Comment(s):
meimei, for confinement u still can engage those catering services but for maid.. kind of tricky.
How long will she be back home? If not very long, maybe u can apply for unpaid leave?
For amabel, have u enrol her into the childcare in NUH?
Jnl have discuss with her, She will beback to hometown during my maternity. So I will need to take care 1 kid and 1 baby myself.
Planning to go to the childcare to take a look if everything ok, will enrolled her in January 09
Then ur maternity period will be SUPER tiring!
Maybe u can ask liling to come over whenever she can to help u.
If u're going to enrol her in Jan 09 then how abt the period after ur maternity leave?
Ur maid can take care of both at the same time?
Many headaches to come in Aug..
Haii.. need any help give me a call!
Dun worry too much. ok.
Oct is my Low workload period.
me can help u too :)
hi i feel tt u shld get a new maid and start training asap.
coz if ur current maid is going home to get married im sure in no time she'll be preggie too!
ultimately she still has to go back. this's based on my understanding of their culture.
Leann and anonymous,
Liling is studying leh, how she can help me. Even if, she know how to cook for Amabel meh. But if my breastfeeding time is when Amabel is going to have meal. If two baby want to eat at the same time, who shall I attend to first? Nobody will understand and think of all this situations except the mother. Yah I know, it's really not easy for me since during the maid away I got to cook for Amabel three meals, feed her for at least half an hour, got to pump milk, got to rest, got to sweep and mop floor,got to wash baby cloth diaper and clothes, got to wash baby bottles. I dont think I got the time to sleep at all. i am sure 24 hours a day is never enough for me. This time round, I garanttee you, my attitude will become super worst or may goes crazy, wanna die or what. But cant help cos nobody agreed with me to change maid. I can tell you in the end suffer is me, the baby and Amabel and of cos my husband. Cos I am sure my this character, i will sure quarrel with him 24/7. The problems doesn't lay in me, but how to get a just give birth women to handle all these suddenly.
Von,
you can afford to take leave for one month to help me??
I really dont dare to think about it if the maid doesn't come back it the end. I am alway thinking of the worst situation but guy never. I feel that this few day becos of this issue, I aged alot. Sian! How I wish I can just goes on changing maid, at least not so tired on training a maid then doing everything by myself. I may not have time to bath, pee and shit during the day if no one is at home.
Leann,
I missed out one of ur question. I will try to enrol Amabel to childcare asap but really can only get in in January 09, the maid and the 2 kids will be going to my in law house when we are working so not so bad.
meimie, i can't take 1 mth leave lah, but i can help u on some afternoons and evenings. If jnl is working night, then not so bad, he can prepare the lunches. But if he on day shift then probably i have to help u on lunches.
just spoken to my boss, she say oct really NO work for me ha ha i so happy.!
Hi, my 2 cents: do consider a leave in confinement lady, at least there is someone to cook and clean and care for Bel and your baby, while you rest, to avoid any post-natal depression. My son popped 3 weeks early and my confinement lady was still engage with another family so i was in a bad fix. My husband and i have gone through 10 days of super tiring days until she came. I dont think saving SGD 1800 is worth sacrificing all the energy and time for. Do give it a thought.
And also, it may not be fair to both kids and hubby if at the end of the day, you become frustrated and grouchy from the lack of sleep and rest. Please take care of your health as well, its for the long term benefit. i wish you all the best!
Will consider your suggestion. Actually I dont have to tire myself during confinement and dont have to save money for my husband since he is not considering for me that I will be super tired if my maid want to go back hometown in Oct 08. But I just worry I may have conflict with the confinment lady since when come to kids I very particular and I dont like their way of handling baby not professional enough but they can still help in housework so will consider that.
I am sure Oct 08 will be a super hard period for me. I wont garanttee whether I will go crazy without anyone in the house to help me during the day. lol!
von,
thanks so much, even you also be so helpful to come over to help me. feel blessed!
"If jnl is working night, then not so bad, he can prepare the lunches" Please take away this words. He don't how to prepare food. And if he work night shift and I wake him up to help, I think he will keep nagging.