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 .jpg)  Our Lil Princess: Amabel Loh Birthday: 21 August 2006 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 38weeks 3days Weight at Birth: 3.005kg Length at Birth: 47cm Breastfeed: 14 months  Our 2nd Lil Princess: Aisleyne Loh Birthday: 15 August 2008 Place of Birth: Thomson Medical Centre, Singapore Delivery Method: Natural Delivery without Epidural Borned in Gestation age: 39weeks 2days Weight at Birth: 3.010kg Length at Birth: 48cm Breastfeed: 3 years+  |
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title: Maid (Part II)
date: Monday, June 16, 2008 time : 10:11 AM Maid (Part II) I really don’t wish to go work, but I can’t cause I’m already applying leave for tomorrow and today I got a lot of work to settle. I couldn’t help but to cry while on the way to work. I stopped after awhile, cause I know no point crying, action is better solutions But now how can I leave my girl under her care? She’s getting out of hands!! Peoples said maid have to change every 2 years, cause they will tends to demand more and less discipline than before. I could see that she dote on Amabel which hubby always put this in his mouth, but after today morning incident I doubt so. Morning woke up, wash up. Amabel woke up also. I asked the maid to take care her and prepare milk for her while I’m in the room get myself ready for work. I went to the kitchen wanted to help her, cause I worried she couldn’t juggle two tasks at a time since Amabel is a bit grouchy this morning. I was SHOCKED to see she leave my girl sitting on our round kitchen table which is placed near the window. While she bring the milk bottle to the other end of the kitchen to fill in water. My heart sunk, cause there is a distance in between. I couldn’t imagine if my girl get grouchy again and want to jump out of the table, how she can manage to catch her when her eyes is looking at the bottle that is filling with water. Amabel is only less than 2 years old, how she knows the danger of it!? I never saw her look at my daughter when she is filling the bottle with water. She doesn’t seem to worry that she may fall. Ok I know this is just what I think only (he sure shoot this words back). I saw it in my own eyes and couldn’t believe it too (he sure shoot back I am too sensitive and a bit also cannot). That’s why I don’t wish to talk to him about this incident. In the end is surely me being too sensitive, picking on her etc. Worst is no one saw this incident and I think he may think I cook up the story or add in rubbish and words. Ok nevermind 人在做, 天在看. I immediately cruddle Amabel and scolded the maid in a firm tone, told her why she couldn't leave Amabel on the table. She should understand Amabel’s temper since she takes care of her for nearly 2 years. Amabel will struggle and fuss anytime and may result her from falling down from the table. I don’t dare to raise up my voice, that’s the unusual me. Yes… I think maid is controlling me now. But no choice, being worries that if I scolded her too harshly, she maybe unhappy and hurt my girl or heck cares my girl when nobody is around. Ok again I know, I am thinking too much. But who know right? I am sure if I never caught her this time, she will surely do it next time. Perhaps maybe she has been doing this all the while, and I must really thanks god that nothing unfortunate had happened to my girl so far. But she won’t be so lucky all the time. I am wondering why don't she just leave my girl walking around the kitchen than leaving her on a so high table. At least this is much safer. If not just carry her making the milk. That is what I always do when no one help me. I'll never dare to leave my girl alone on a table. Just pray hard that nothing will happen this few weeks before I get her changed. Going to B’s house to see her maid this weekend, if she looks fine to me, I will confirm with B to get her transfer to my side. I know there is no perfect maid. But I rather the need to train the new maid once again, then being control by current maid and follow all her demands. Labels: Maid 7 Comments:
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7 Comment(s):
im not a mummy.
after reading ur entry, i dont think u r thinking too much.U r playing safe...than sorry.
Watever you do, i know u did it for your gal..Im a mummy now.. I know how you feel!! =)
Jia you to you!! You are a great mommy!!
even if she's not making milk at tt point of time, i feel tt she oso shldnt leave ur girl on the table.
if it's me, i'll tell her tt it's not right.
next time the kid will climb up onto the table since adult ever put her there so she might think it's alright to climb up there herself.
i feel tt u're not being u??? (when i read this post)
i tot u always hv a way? (meaning not always hv to listen to ur hubby?)
u shld let him know abt this incident. maybe on the front he'll shoot u back. but deep in his heart he might be alert w the maid coz i believe he loves amabel too.
dun keep anything fr each other just to avoid argument. if u dun want an argument to break out, just try to control fr ur end. if he shoot u back, let him be. at least u've conveyed whatever he needs to know to him. whether he accept or not, is another business.
that is scary! nowadays we cannot control maids, scared they do things behind our backs.
Hi eling, this is Rae Ann's mummy, Rina aka cheekz.
Congratz on #2 : )
I just got a new maid recently. Before ur current posts, i actually thought u were so lucky to have such capable maid coz my maid is so spas.
but we really cannot predict how things will turn out ya?
one thing for sure is, good maid can become bad maid, but bad maid will never become good maid!
in my case, my maid never improve all these mths...lucky she still corporate and willing to wait for me to get new maid before going back to indon...
really hope u find a good resolution to ur maid woes. Really feel so sorry for u to go thru so much stress @ during ur pregnancy.
let me know if u need any help, okie : )
rina
Thanks for all the comments and concerns.
anonymous, Yes i did told her that is not right. just hope she won't do it again when no one is around.
Yes... i also feel that I not being myself. When come to discipline or handle my kids, I stick to my ways no matter what, i never give in to others esp when elderly and us usually have different ways of handling baby/kids, I heck care them and persisting my ways of doing.
But when come to maid, I really cant decide, reason mainly becos maid is not being pay by me, but my hubby. So no matter what, I do hope that he can support my decision, that is why it kind of put me in dilemma.
Nope, i told him and explained to him and asked him to think of the worst stituation; what if the maid never come back from her one month back home leave esp during our most busy period where 2nd one is just borned. How to last minutes search around for a good maid right. In the end is who suffering? And now the maid is starting to demand more things, and expect us to follow her decision, insisting us letting her to go back in October when I just give birth.
But he keeps saying that I think too much and this won't happened. Sometime really dont understand what guys are thinking, think they are just trying to escape the troubles.
cherish,
I believe all maid, no matter good or bad, they surely do something behind our back which we don't know, is just how serious it is.
rina,
Yes I remember you. Hehe! How is Rae Ann now?
Maid who is capable no much of use, most important is they got good attitude and willing to listen and learn. My maid is hardworking but her attitude sometime may not be very good, which i dont really like. And she is not very capable in cooking baby food, doing marketing, and I got to learn and teach her everytime so i will be very busy with all these. Already been cooking for my girl for more than a year, yet I still have to keep reminding her the steps of cooking, and she still needs following the recipe on how to cook that I prepared for her though she already cooked multiple times. And I told her never mix our adult clothing together with the baby clothes, yet I caught her many times mixing it together. And I myself have to help her separate it. Last time she follow what I said, now she stopped doing all this, maybe she think my girl is big already dont have to separate it anymore, but she never thought that I want her to continue to do all these.
I told her before, if she really come back from her home leave, I will trained her up once again like a new maid, and she got to follow all my instruction and attitude must be good, if not I will surely pok her without any warning.
Yes i agreed with you "good maid can become bad maid, but bad maid will never become good maid!"
So you told ur maid that you wanna change maid? She wont feel sad or unhappy?
And yes this pregnancy I dont really enjoy and am very stressful over all these, yet my close one dont understand and unable to help me to release abit, instead making me feel worst.
Add me in msn if you have, we can chat more e_ling05@hotmail.com.
hee!