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Feedbacks I gotten from the forums from ladies and gentlemen.

My nick msapple / Amabel’s mom

msapple,
actually hor .. if she go back and get married, would she still want to come back ? Tell her to be honest with you because it would cause alot of disruption for you. In my opinion, just get a new maid and train her esp since u have this period of ML to do it personally. Better than getting a new one in Nov when you already need to be back at work. Sometimes maids feel that they are irreplaceable so they remand for things. If it was me, I will explain my situation to the existing maid telling her why Nov is out. So if she wants to go, then it's Sept or Oct. Else timing would not permit. Because even during this period she away is also inconvenience for you with 2 to look after. Also I feel there is high risk she go back then later she might not wana come back. So better take precautionary measure.

Amabel mummy
I have been silent reader and seldom update but decided to write something. Same as you, i have a maid who has been with me since my son was born and can take care of him v well. I have some issues with her (use hp until the bill is $400; Go to neighbour's hse till 1 a.m. and didnt come hm until i went to call her back) but just like your HB, my HB keep thinking I "sheng zai fu zhong bu zhi fu" and that our maid is good. I think becos man are scared of trouble so they always choose easy way out. So when i suggest changing maid when her contract expired in April, my HB and i major disagreemtn. In the end, since i have another one coming, i decided to stick to "the devil I know". My advice to you is to go and change one now. I see my MIL and SIL keep changing maids every two years and not much problem with new maids so maybe we also must have faith we will find the rite one. I sometimes regret not biting the bullet and just change. Regarding what the agent said abt renewing maid is more expensive than getting a new maid, it is completely true. If I went to maid agency, I just pay agency fee (abt $288?), work permit fee (about $70) and I get a new maid. Costs like medical insurance, personal accident insurance and bond guarantee, you have to pay regardless of new maid or old maid. So when I extended the contract of my current maid, i have to renew the insrance as well. Furthermore, I buy air ticket for the maid to go home (around $400). I have to pay her salary even when she is not working that 2 weeks (around $200) and I have to apply to philippines embassy for: -employemnt contract -proof of employment -exit pass -FDW membership and all sorts of nonsense that came up to $200 plus also. So, it is cheaper to get new maid!!

msapple,
I think maids cannot be spoilt, esp since now she already asking you for 1 off day a mth to continue. Means she already demanding for things and one after another they will just come. And I also agree,men sometimes they just want an easy way out of things. But I think you should explain the situation to him and work out which is best. Dont put yourself in a situation whereby you are hostage to the maid's demands. And like missyz said, Z's current maid sounds good lei .. hahaha. sure alot of people want.

amabel's mommy,
Like what RTCP and Catherine said, think you should just change maid. Last time, my mum had this maid, who after her 2 years is up, said she ok to stay on but then she started to show pattern and said her parents missed her and want to go home for 1 mth before she come back to SG to work again. My mum suspected something wrong, so she just played along and pretended she ok to let her go back to her hometown and then come back to SG after a mth. Actually, my mum just sent her back on the plane and got replacement maid cos she doesn't trust the maid to keep her word to come back SG. You just have to tell the maid that either she goes back before Nov else you will get replacement maid.

Hi Amabel Mummy,
Change your maid. My ex-maid contract was due in April and she wanted to go canada, she had her first interview and final result she did not make it. She beg, cry, etc to ask us to renew her so she can go in 6 months' time if she passes another interview which is Aug when I am due. I asked her to delay her going to Canada and at least till my baby is 6 months old but she did not want to. I cannot sabo myself and try to help her, pity her. Hubby oso same. Say she so good so good. Love our son so much (2+), etc and lazy to get a new one. Say can trust her, she can do the job and most imptly, love my son. In the end, i told her if she only wants to stay for 6 months, then I have to let her go. She quickly found a new ANG MO employer and then left within 2 weeks instead of the initial agreed 1 month - left me stranded and I could not find a new maid in time. They can give all the excuses to beg us to help them but they may not help u in return. Her work slagged so much and despite me warning her to buck up so we can consider renewing her. She will ask for adv pay, talk on phone for 4 hours a day, ask for off the day before she wants to go and refuses to change date, etc. Just before she left, her new employer requested she stay with us for 2 more days over the weekend so as to allow her old maid to go for interview but my ex-maid did not want to stay. Cos she was getting her day off on Sunday once she goes to her new employer on Saturday. I was so mad cos she cried, beg us and say how much she loves to work with us, how nice we are but yet, she cannot stay with us 2 more days. After she left, the other maids in my neighbourhood started telling me how BAD my ex-maid was. How she always take advantage of us and she did alot of bad things - just that we did not know. Anyway, the point is, do whatever is comfortable to you and not cause yourself to be "blackmailed". I considered alot of things too and even wan to renew her despite me being vv pissed with her working attitude and handling my son - cos hubby dun wan to change and oso she seems so poor thing. We can be nice but dun let them take us as fools - haha, that's what my FIL told me. Anyway, after she left, she smsed us to say she is not happy with her new employer and would not have left us, etc. I told my hubby that I'd rather suffer without a maid than have her back. I did suffer ... haha. Anyway, I managed to get another transfer maid who is vv good! She is much better than my ex-maid (Perhaps my ex-maid is so bad that my standard has become so low). Finding a suitable new maid is not easy. I took more than 1 month, going for various interviews, etc. I was lucky but I am sure there are still some reasonable maids around. My house is now sparkling clean and new maid really spend time playing with my son. She wun complain my son is heavy. She wun leave my son alone when she is at the playground with him. She wun be too busy with her hp than paying attention to my son and doing the housework properly. She will wake up at nite to see if my son is ok when he fusses at nite. New maids are by luck - good or not. Old maids u know that they are already no good, want to bargain, they have lots of tricks up their sleeves. New maids at least be on their toes for a while. I try to please everybody but in the end who suffers? I will. Who utilises the maid most?Me! Not the husband, not the MIL, not the FIL ... so let us make the best decision for ourselves and live with the consequences. Just my 2 cents worth.

msapple,
I think you are being generous giving her a whole month of holiday. I thought the norm was 2 weeks? Personally I wouldn't let her go back in November or October because you have your issues too. I would offer her July or Sept.
If she doesn't accept and you let her go back in Oct or Nov then who is going to take care of your newborn?

msapple,
I also wouldnt let her go back in Oct. I agree with what liana has posted. I will stay put with Jul. She can take it or leave it.

msapple
to be on the safe side, u have to look for alternative arrangement for your newborn, eg. infantcare, nanny, etc .. Cos from what i see, your maid is likely not to come back after that, esp. if the getting married is true .. what if after getting married, her husband wants her to stay . . even withholding her salary is also not guarantee, cos i know there are some maids who are not so concerned abt money, mine is one of them (don know why they come all the way here to work also, if money is not super important to them) .. also, what is her real reason for insisting to go back in October, seems like she don feel like telling u the real reason ..

I totally agreed with this
“If I try to please everybody but in the end who suffers? I will. Who utilizes the maid most? Me! Not the husband, not the MIL, not the FIL ... so let us make the best decision for ourselves and live with the consequences.”

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