title: Child Developmental Unit
date: Friday, April 03, 2009
time : 7:27 AM
1 April 2009 -
A consultation at CDU
Have been long waited for today to come.
An appointment with pediatrician/psychiatric, Dr Chong S.C, at Child Developmental Unit in Jurong Polyclinic.
She's a very nice lady; profession in autism, learning and developmental difficulties in children, and is currently helping to run the autism parents’ support programme in CDU.
The whole consultation took about an hour plus.
We have a clearer mind, what we should do and what we should stop in order to help her.
Be firm.
especially hubby got to be firm
Dr Chong can see; I'm usually quite cool over it and firm in my stand when Amabel throwing tantrum.
That explained why Amabel behave extremely bad when Hus is around, she said.
And now she is getting worst cause we never resolve it soon enough.
Me and Hus are not in the same frequency when come to discipline the kids, hence Amabel may be confused; what she can do, what she cannot...
I have been blaming hus for alway siding her, giving in to her, resulting in this unacceptable behaviours.
Now I think hus knew that he shouldn't continue to give in to her after Dr Chong's advices.
HOPEFULLY
Dr Chong said it is pretty common for a 2 years plus toddler to appear to be demanding, stubborn and uncooperative. The only thing that is abnormal and need urgent attention is her extreme behaviour like pulling hair, bite herself, fisting.
She monitored her through some play and talk with her.
Her temper is considered very intense, and she definitely want to have alot of our attention.
The only way to get attention is to scream, refuse to do whatever instruction given, throwing things, pulling hair, just to get our attention.
She said, if we observe carefully, we will notice everytime she's throwing tantrum, she will actually peek at our reaction.
See whether we react to her actions.
True enough,
I do notice it.
So cause everytime she does these, and success in getting our attention. Whenever she want attention, she will just do the aforementioned again.
So we got to be firm, all family member must be consistent, be firm to her.
She screams or cry, let her do it.
ignore her.
So she will learn to know, by doing so, she won't be getting her way anyway.
But if she does anything dangerous, immediately stop her and put her in naughty corner (time-out)
Her such behaviour is also partly because her character is like that and with our don't know what is the correct way to discipline her, making it worst.
Every children have different temperaments; some are quiet and easygoing and rarely have tantrums. Others have quick tempers and often have tantrums.
And she said Amabel fell in latter category.
Here I show a few videos I took it secretly afew day ago without her aware of it .
She throwing tantrum, when she couldn't find her daddy at home.
I will tell her the truth that her Daddy go to work or whatever places like play soccer etc.
(If it was her Dad, he will bluff her by secretly went out cause he worry she will want to tag along, which I feel that it is not the right way)
I always ignore her and let her cry it out.
If it doesn't work after she cried for half an hour, I will lock her inside the room or toilet.
She will usually continue to cry for more than 20 minutes.
She's really very stubborn.