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date: Tuesday, April 08, 2008 time : 1:23 PM Maid I like this quote "Maids are here for a reason, that is to work for her employer. You needs them and they needs you. So must respect maids as well... " So before you scold or joke with maid, please use brain and heart to think first. Respect them too, afterall they are human! Don't anyhow accuse them steal or take your things, moreover she did ask others for permission. Labels: Words for you 18 Comments:
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Yeah, i agree with the above quote. Maids are human too and go through exactly the same emotion as anyone will be going through.
Hopefully the person who scold/joke with the maid should put themselves in other's shoe.
Imagine ur closed one or even ur daughter has to go overseas to be someone's maid and was treated the same way u did, how's ur feeling?
It's pretty sad eh?
What comes round, goes round..
When permission is sought, I don’t regard that as stealing and if she really want to steal, perhaps she will steal something more worthy rather than a DIAPER! :P
Ya... Maid are human. You can say her if she really is in the wrong... But accusing people is definetely a shameful way to do... Just because she is a maid, and you think that you can raise your voice at her or even accusing her whenever u like...Dun forget, she is also someone daughter....
*Karma*
Moreover, that is someone maid. If unhappy with the maid taking her kid's diaper, tell her employer straight away, why must in front of other people said "why take my diaper" something like that. Like that I can also said her maid why use my house water. Do you think her maid will feel good also if I said that, even if I tell her in a nice tone or way. Use brain lor when talk.
Actually i feel that those foreigner that come to singapore work are very pathetic. just because they are born in those poorer country they are destined to suffer. imagine those maids tat age are ard 18 to 25. they have to leave their loved one and come here to work. not work like big bosses, work like a slaves here. wat r u doing in the age 18 to 25? we r enjoying our youth. so spare a thought for them. leave a road for them to walk. accusing them is like pushing them down a cliff. they cant defend themselves as much as we can. a piece of advice for the person who likes to accuse ppl, "dun bully those people that r weaker than u"
Agreed with all the above comments. Amabel's mom, tell your maid she is not wrong if she feel sad about what that petty woman said. Ask her next time remember to bring enough DIAPER there, if not that person unhappy again.
Read ur previous post on ur girl fell down from bed. I think you started to be unhappy with that woman since that right? Me too feel unhappy for you that she told the maid only to inform you when you are back to fetch ur girl. Can't she understand how impt it is to inform the kid's parent when just a 5 month old baby fell from a bed. It can be very serious!! I won't said she is purposely one but i think she no common sense. I feel that she sure not very willing to lend the DIAPER to ur kid that is why you will said that to the maid. This is just what I feel lah. Anyway, don't be anger by this kind of person somemore you are preggy now. Stay happy k!
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Thanks all for leaving comments.
I dont think my maid is concern or sad about that woman remarks. I am the one who feel so unhappy for her cos she is just as usual telling me or my hubby what had happened daily when we are off for work. This is often what I asked her every night when back home. Think what made my maid sad is that my hubby seem to don't believe in what she said and go question the person who is around when that happened and resulting her being scolded for "complaining". I don't think it is a "complaining", it is "reporting" i would said. Now I am worry, after this incident, my maid will still want to tell us everything that happened daily or not.
There is alway pros and cons of having a maid. Cannot treat them too good or bad. But that woman said such things seem like she is very ungenerous in trifling things. Is she jealous of you? And all her actions seem to be very bad. Use her leg to stop your girl from entering her room, such a disgusting act! She dont seem to be a kindhearted woman.
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Forgive and Forget
To take revenge on trouble-makers is only to create more problems and disturbances. You must realise that negative feelings and hostile actions could only bring harm and suffering to both you and the trouble-maker. In order to take retaliatory action, you have to harbour intense hatred in your heart. This hatred is like a poison. Since the poison is initially in you, surely it will harm you before it can harm anyone else. Before you can throw a blazing iron at another, you can burned first. Your action merely goes to show that there is no basic difference between you and your opponent.
By hating others, you only give them power over you. You do not solve the problem. If you become angry with a person who simply smiles back at you, then you will feel defeated and miserable. Since he did not co-operate with you to fulfil your wish, it is he who is victorious.
The Buddha teaches us how to live happily when we are faced with disturbances.
(Ah happily do we live without hate amongst the hateful. Amidst hateful men, we live without hate.)
We can live happily without fanning the fires of hatred. Perhaps you may not be strong enough to extend compassionate love to your enemies, but for the sake of your own health and happiness and that of everyone else, you must at least learn how to forgive and forget.
By not hating or crushing your trouble-maker, you act like a gentleman. To act in this manner, you must understand that the other people has been misled by anger, jealousy and ignorance. He is therefore no different from all other human beings who have also at one time or another been misled by the same negative states of mind.
The Buddha says:
"Evil -doers are not wicked by nature. They do evil because they are ignorant. Therefore they need guidance"
We should not curse them. It is not justifiable for us to say that they should be condemned to everlasting suffering as it is still not too late to correct them. We should try to explain to them in a very convincing way that they are in fact in the wrong. With this understanding, you can treat the evil-doers as you would a patient who is suffering from a sickness and in need of treatment. When the sickness is cured the ex-patient and everyone else will be well and happy. The ignorant must be guided by the wise.
Good life is inspired by love and guided by knowledge.
If a man does something wrong to you out of ignorance or misunderstanding. then that is the time to radiate your compassionate love towards the evil-doer. Oneday, he will realise his folly and relent on his evil habits. So it is better to give him a chance to be good. Repentance of his past misdeeds will change him into a better person and in the end he will truly appreciate your kind thoughts. The most compassionate Buddha's advice is:
"Hatred does not cease by hatred, by love alone it cease. This is eternal law."
If you can radiate compassionate love, no harm will come to you. This will help you to achieve both physical and mental health. Life has it own rhythm. When you lose on the swing, you gain on the roundabout. Those who do not understand this principle often get into trouble and face difficulties in life.
If a man does something wrong to you again and again, you must act wisely in correcting him each time he make the mistake. Although it is not so easy to do that, you should nevertheless try your best to follow the example set by Buddha. Then you will come to know that it is after all not impossible. The attitude of the Buddha in such a situation could be summarised thus:
" The more evil that comes to me, the more good will radiate from me."
Some people think that it is not practicable to return good for evil. Try it and see for yourself. If you find it too difficult to return good for evil, then you can still do a great service to yourself and to others by not returning evil for evil.
"Sympatheic consideration is needed for less-understanding people who make mistakes."
There is only one word to say..Let time wash away all the hate and anger
Hi anon,
Agreed with the thing you share. But is alway easily said than to do. And not many people can do it. Anyway I am trying to, that is why I never go and argue but to just ranting over at my own blog. This at least won't hurt anyone else and I try to avoid area that she exist cause I am a person who will not be able to conceal my anger and I will definitely show it out. And I sweep away my usual thinking of buying a pack of diaper and return back to her. This will show that I am like her which I don't want to. I will try to avoid place that she exist perhap after sometimes, I will forget her existing.
And lastly, I am not taking any revenge or action nor fanning the fires of hatred, I am just ranting at my OWN BLOG. I never curse and this is not hatred but just dislike her actions. And I still protect the person by not mentioned her name here. This I must make it very clear.
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Ya... ranting in your blog can be a very good way of releasing the anger and unhappiness. There is nothing wrong with it. If you will feel better by doing this, continue with it. Like me, I am one who like to rant about my unhappiness with my in law over my blog or even diary it also. At least I feel very much better. I never see anything wrong with it. And you dont have to force yourself to hide your unhappiness in front of other people, release it out will definietly better than bottle it up.
Continue blogging cause I love to read your posts.
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Some Maths came to my mind.
alegbaric formula of FORgive and FORget...(factorise "FOR")
You end up "give and get"
give and get = give and take = take it easy = awareness but do not attach to what is the outcome
Very chim... but thanks for sharing.
From your post, it seems like you have some misunderstanding and/or miscommunication with that person. I don't know who....
what do we understand by the word "forgiveness"? An example of forgiveness can be seen in Jesus Christ when he was crucified, he cried out "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). Here, one can see that Jesus does not concern himself or his bodily pain; he is forgiving them (the people crucifying him). We may not undergo such scale of extremities to rise to the challenge of forgiveness ... every little acts of forgiveness make it easier for us to practice forgiveness. It is all about letting go. If you still remember a past event, you are still clinging to it and not letting go. Practice to forgive like anything else, makes it easier to forgive. I rather take baby steps in trying my best to practice forgiveness and trying not to cling to the past actions than to face immense hurt or situation; when the latter happens, I hope the practise will come in handy and insulate me with a choice to be mindful and forgive and letting go.So just FORGIVE her presumptions.
This article I came across from some forum just to share
Hi All,
Have you ever realized that particular second, when you are having some action or thoughts in mind, all the people and all other things or going on too...
Examples:
When you are sad that moment, other people may be joy at the second.
When you enjoying with new birth baby, other are facing death at that second.
When you are commit sin, other are doing merit that second.
When you are in love at a slight, other are in heart break at that moment...
A real incident, I have seen. A year ago, I was crossing a busy road beside a bus stop and I spotted a lot of people were waiting for the bus.
What caught me with this theory is when I crossed over the road and at the corner of the packed bus stop, I spotted a NTUC bag with ants crawling. I saw the bag was with some junk food in it and there alot of ants climbing in and enjoy their feast!! hehehehehe..
This scene caught my attention and I realized that that second, all things are doing what they should be...I am cross the road, People are waiting for the bus and the ants are enjoining the food at a corner...All activities are at that second.
Imagine one was being angry and almost kill someone that second, all things are still carry on naturly like: the ants are enjoying, people are waiting and crossing the road...
So, when we have this theory in mind, we will know that all things are going on by nature.....nature leads by nature....no one can stop all things from changing and going on...
With this undertanding, lets live happily.
Lets nature leads by nature...
Anon, thanks for sharing!
No worry I am still a happy mother of two soon. Just with them, I feel bless and happy. I find way to make myself happy too.
I know all those logic about forgive and forget. But forgive take time and forget is not easy. And lastly not everyone can do it including you maybe. Is alway easily said than do. But very appreciate you for sharing that with me.
Thanks!